Your Destiny is Being Who You Are

My father teaches a series of principles to live by in a quality-of-life context. These principles, including Vision, Identity, Personal Foundation, Service, Relationships, Action, Community and Destiny, serve as the guide to leading a holistic purposeful life. By living these principles, you have the necessary insights into your own life such that you find yourself on the path to your destiny no matter who you are or what you are doing. In essence, living life to the fullest (i.e. balling out of control) is your destiny by virtue of the fact that you are at peace with your personal vision, identity, and foundation; while providing service to yourself and others, building better relationships, and feeling that your actions are purposeful in the community at large. Thus, you have discovered that you are your destiny because your destiny is being who you are.

I have believed that if you create the background, the foreground will create itself. You must create a clearly defined vision with the understanding of your destiny in order to manifest the personal identity and service to others that you truly desire. Once you formulate this vision, simply the act of putting these intentions out into the world, whether mentally, physically, emotionally, or spiritually, will begin to redefine who you are. The interconnected world around you will manifest these intentions in your life. For someone without self confidence, it appears that the cosmos have created these results, when, in reality, it is simply his/her more purposeful existence that has generated the same results. By cultivating the proper personal foundation and by building relationships with the right people, the foreground has created itself.

For me, this vision is teaching other people how to build relationships, how to show compassion for others, and ultimately, how to use compassionate relationships to create a better world. This is a daunting vision. And it is daunting because this vision stems to all facets of my life. I constantly feel the need to interact with others, whether at work, at home, or in public, in order to learn more about human interaction and building relationships. And by virtue of this fact, I have learned that compassion, genuineness, sincerity, and love, create positive symbiotic relationships in society. These are not new principles or ideas, but manifesting them constantly is a challenge! And it is my destiny to bring this vision to the world.

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I have always known that it is my destiny to bring my vision to the world because it was how I was brought into this world. My birth mother, Diane, discovered that she had terminal cancer during her pregnancy. She knew that she would not be alive to raise the child that she was carrying. She knew that it was her destiny to bring this baby into the world so that he could live out her dreams and aspirations. I was born on May 14, 1981, three weeks before Diane passed away from the cancer.

During her pregnancy, her personal vision was transformed into making sure that I was born. And she was determined to not only make sure that this was happen, but also make sure that everyone else around her had this same vision. Her charisma and zest for life was palpable to those who interacted with her. She was not a women dying of cancer, but she was a woman living to bear a child that would be able to complete her destiny and vision.

By virtue of this birth story, I am honored with shouldering this vision for my own life. I have the dreams and aspirations of my mother to bring to this world. Her charisma and zest for life are in my genes and a part of who I am. There is no conscious understanding of this birth story, simply a molecular subconscious understanding that we have this inextricable connection. And I am thankful every day that her vision encompassed my destiny to simply be who I am. She wanted me to be born and to live my life. And that is what I must teach others by showing them the power of compassionate relationships.

After I was born, I remained in intensive care in Brigham and Women’s Hospital for over a month. During that time, I was under constant supervision in the neo-natal unit 24 hours a day. There were nurses and doctors making sure that this 3lb 3oz baby was able to mature and grow despite being born 7 weeks before his due date. The love and compassion of everyone involved in this process in the intensive care unit, not to mention my entire family concurrently mourning the loss of my birth mother, will forever lead me to be who I am. I will forever be trying to give back that same love and strength that so many have given to me.

Do I feel lucky? It has never really been about luck, but truly about being who you are. We all have doubts at some point in our lives. We all have dilemmas and interactions that we cannot explain. And we all wonder if it has anything to do with luck. But the fact of the matter is that we are who we are and we will be who we will be. Do we have control over our destiny and vision? Absolutely! Can we change our personal foundation and our relationships to better fit our needs? Definitely! None of these changes have anything to do with luck! We are not lucky we are living life to the fullest. We are manifesting who we are destined to be—and you know what, it feels pretty good.

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